How to improve your conversation with new people

Many times, we know someone and when starting to talk we are afraid of not knowing what to say or of being boring.

Here are some tips to improve in these situations:


1. Listening with interest

Stop hearing and start listening. There are people that seems only interested in what are they going to say next, not listening what the other says.

You don’t want to be this kind of people. Listening with interest is the most important thing in a conversation with someone and it is the way of getting information about the other, make questions, learn things… and improve the relation.

2. Choose the conversation topics carefully

Use the following acronyms: F.O.R.D and R.A.P.E.

F.O.R.D. is for Family, Occupation, Recreation and Dreams. These are the topics that use to be more effective to connect with someone.

R.A.P.E. is for Religion, Abortion, Politics and Economics. Very sensible topics, better not to talk about them in the beginning until you know the other person better.


3. Eye contact and distance

Lots of eye contact and short distance between both and your attitude will seem aggresive, however, little eye contact and big distance and it will seem you are not interested in what the other person says.

So you have to find a middle point and not force movements.

4. Don’t worry about silences

It’s okay to have a moment of silence, don’t feel you must always fill them, there is nothing wrong.

Silences are only annoying if you make them annoying.

This post was written more than 6 months ago, maybe things have changed or I don't think the same way anymore